Not a lot of people are going to want to admit, it but sex before you get married and sex after you get married is going to be substantially different. And again, not a lot of people are going to want to admit it, but a vast majority is always going to prefer sex before marriage than sex after marriage.
Yes, as you get deeper and deeper into a relationship, the lust that you have for one another gradually gets replaced by a more profound and intimate emotional bond. And that’s great for your relationship as a whole. It shows that you’re practically building on your love and not just your sex life. And when you prioritize one aspect of your relationship, you’re going to have to compromise others. And that’s just how it is.
Or is it?
Well, relationship experts have concluded that you don’t necessarily have to compromise having an exciting sex life just because you get married. You just have to make sure that you equip yourself with the know-how on actually maintaining the sexual passion and fire that you used to have in the earliest days of your relationship.
In any case, just because your sex life becomes different after marriage doesn’t mean that it’s going to be worse. Change can be a good thing – and it all depends on how you look at it.
1. Sex isn’t going to last all night long anymore.
In the earlier days of your relationship, you might have gotten used to just spending long hours in bed together. You used to have long sessions all through the night and sometimes even all throughout the day just being intimate with one another. You’re not going to have those as much anymore now that you’re older.
2. You’re going to get better at doing more in less time.
You might not be able to make the love-making last all night. But you’re definitely going to make the most out of the time that you have with one another.
3. You are going to have to schedule your sexual encounters.
You are going to have very busy schedules. Work is going to drain a lot out of you. Your kids are going to take up a whole lot of your time. And so you really have to schedule your sexual encounters if you want to squeeze time in for one another.
4. You are going to get better at pleasing one another.
The longer you stay together, the better you know one another. And the better you know one another, the better you get at pleasing each other in the bedroom.
5. You won’t be as open to trying new things anymore.
You already know what you like. And you know each other well enough to know what the other likes as well. So you won’t really waste time and energy with experimentation anymore. You already know what you both need to do – and there’s no need to be taking risks or trying new things.
6. Sex will mean something different to you now.
Before, sex might have been for just plain casual fun. But now, you could be having sex for deeper and more profound meanings. You could do it because you want kids. Or you could be doing it to keep the passion in your marriage alive.
7. You aren’t going to be having as much of it as you used to.
You’re probably not going to be getting the opportunity to do it as much as you used to. You have more responsibilities now and you just can’t be humping at one another all of the time. You have jobs and you might even have kids in the house as well. This can make it very difficult for you both to just do it whenever you want to.
8. Sex isn’t always going to be exciting.
When you’re having sex with the same person who is doing the same moves over and over again, it’s going to get a little boring sometimes. And that’s okay. That’s normal. This is just where the two of you really need to talk about your sexual needs so you can make a few adjustments.
9. You won’t spend too much time on foreplay anymore.
Foreplay won’t really matter as much as it used to. You’re going to want to just rush through that process and get straight to the point. And if your partner is fine with it, then that shouldn’t really be a problem at all.
10. You’re going to go through your share of ups and downs.
You are going to go through your fair share of rough spells as a couple. And that’s okay. There will be stretches wherein you won’t feel like having sex with each other at all. And then there will be times where you won’t be able to keep your hands off one another. It’s a cycle – a wave that you’re going to have to ride forever.